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Ageless: June Member of the Month

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“Youth is wasted on the young” – George Bernard Shaw

Each month we look for members that inspire us. We search for members who have overcome obstacles that would have stopped most of us dead in our tracks. Our goal, other than to recognize their extraordinary efforts, is to convince you that no matter your circumstance, reaching your goals is always possible. Like we tell our athletes, limits and “cant’s” are for losers.

This month’s member of the month has inspired me over the years in more ways than I can count. What follows is just a glimpse of the impact he’s had on me over the last 29 years….

When you’re young, you’re invincible. Death, disease, and even aging are unfathomable. You never truly appreciate the gifts of youth because you can’t comprehend life without them. When your grandma forgets her keys and blames old age, you scoff. When your grandpa complains about knee pain from spending a few hours in the garden, you laugh because just yesterday you played 3 basketball games and feel great today. Better yet, when you see pictures of your grandparents when they were young, you react no differently than you would if you were looking at a magazine with pictures of people you didn’t even know.  Your brain automatically says, “That’s not my grandparents. Those people are young, fit, and attractive. My grandparents are old and wrinkly.” You can’t comprehend that everyone at one time was young, fit, and attractive. Unfortunately, age whittles you away, eventually leaving an image that vaguely resembles your youth.

If you see my grandpa now, you see an 84 year-old man that barely resembles a young, innocent teenager that would drive escorts from St. Louis to Benld when Capone was rumored to roam the local streets.  You don’t see a young, hot-headed Italian that would throw a punch or two at the drop of hat. You don’t see a young, high school boy who quit the basketball team because the coach told him he’d have to stop chasing the girls. You don’t see a young husband and father of 4 that, though he had his faults, would fight off the toughest of tough guys to protect his family. You don’t see a young grandpa that would toss his grand kids over his head in the swimming pool over and over and over again.

No, what you now see is an apparition of a young Ed Ruffatto.  You see a man that 6 months ago had his entire family by his side because his COPD exacerbation was so bad we thought he wasn’t going to make it through the night. He couldn’t even catch his breath to talk, and just opening his eyes used up more energy than his body could muster. You see a man that on some days can’t leave the couch because even a few steps prevent him from catching his breath. You see a man that’s on so many breathing inhalers he may be solely responsible for the deterioration of the ozone.  Essentially what you see is the product of 84 years of living.

Yet even with severe COPD and 84 years of wear and tear on his body, you see glimpses of the young hard-headed Italian. Yes, he’s the old guy that hops on the vibration platform for a few minutes, and then slowly walks on the treadmill for as many lapses as he can make it. Usually, he’ll stop at a machine or two just to catch his breath as he crosses the gym. On his really good days, he can make it over a mile. On his not so good days, he can manage a lap maybe two.  Just making it to the gym in his condition is a feat that speaks to his determination and strength.

Why does he do it? Just the shear thought of not being able to catch my breath makes me anxious. My best guess is purpose. It’s a challenge. “How many laps am I going to make it today?” It’s as much psychological as it is physiological. People vastly underestimate the importance fitness influences mental health. When you’ve lost the ability to do almost everything you loved doing, even the dullest, smallest challenge is enough to get you out of bed in the morning. He used to paint lawn ornaments, plant flowers, clean his pool, and walk the dog. Now carrying plant pots and statues are beyond his physical capabilities. He needed a new purpose, and he found it at Ageless.

He’s a great reminder that we all have good days and bad days, and that we shouldn’t let the bad days prevent us from enjoying the good days.  He reminds us that it’s not over until it’s over, and if you are going to go down, you go down swinging. He reminds us that money is not the root of happiness; the intangibles are (purpose, laughter, conversations with good friends and family, etc). He reminds us that everyone is human, and no matter how strong, wealthy, or intelligent you are, aging doesn’t care.  Our time on this earth is finite so enjoy every second of it. What you can do today you may not be able to do tomorrow.  Most importantly, he reminds us that you are never too old to exercise! Here’s to you Papa!

“Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” – Steve Jobs, one of the greatest entrepreneurs of our generation

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Beaver Dam hotel was landmark of bygone era in county

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A view of the hotel at Beaver Dam, south of Carlinville, in the early 1900s. A landmark of the area, the hotel was a popular overnight spot until it closed in 1938.

A century ago, a hotel was a landmark at the area that became Beaver Dam State Park in south-central Macoupin County. The structure has lived on in various incarnations since it closed in 1938.

The two-story, sixteen-room building opened for business in 1906.  The exterior of the white-frame structure was spartan in appearance, which likely reflected the interior. But the hotel was a favorite stopover for visitors to Beaver Dam Lake.

Advertisements for the hotel were found in the St. Louis, Alton, and Springfield papers and attracted guests from miles around. “There must have been some business there,” said Jim Frank of the Macoupin County Historical Society in an interview before his death in late 2024. “People came from all over to visit the lake and stay in the hotel.”

Frank, who lived south of Beaver Dam, notes that guests arrived by train from Macoupin Station, a mile to the north. “They would be met there by a horse-drawn coach,” he remarked. “That would take them up the hill to the hotel.”

Though the hotel was basic, its surroundings were scenic. A tree-lined lane met visitors on the approach to the building, which sat just inside the current park entrance, on the right.

The hotel was operated by Frank Rhoads and his wife Sarah, whose father, Henry Brayford, played a pivotal role in the development of the lake for recreational purposes.

In 1881, some eighteen leading Carlinville residents leased the property from Brayford to create the Beaver Dam Lake Club. The members spent an estimated $2600 to construct earthen dams on either end of the lake to raise the water level.

Brayford, a coal miner who began to sink a new mine in 1899, died of a lingering illness on Dec. 23, 1901 at age 84.  When Frank and Sarah Rhoads inherited the property, they ended the lease to the Carlinville businessmen and built the hotel, which opened as the Beaver Dam Fishing Resort.

The Rhoads, who had no children, took extra steps to ensure their guests’ enjoyment. “Mrs. Rhoads was quite a musician,” said Frank. “There was a grand piano and an organ in the hotel parlor, and she would play those to entertain the visitors.”

It was not the only way in which Sarah Rhoads put her stamp on the hotel. When meals were served, she called the guests and fishermen inside by blowing a large fox horn that sounded across the lake.  A taxidermist, her mounts of local wild animals were displayed in the hotel and in its guest rooms.  She was also adept at photography and for a fee, provided photos of her guests and their catches of fish.

Guests to the lake could fish for a dollar per day, while lodging was two dollars per night. Outdoor camping was permitted, but Sarah, owing to customs of the day, would not allow female campers.

Some individuals tried to avoid the fishing fee by sneaking into the lake grounds.  However, the Rhoads posted watchmen who would collect the fee as they scaled the fences.

The completion of the Shipman Blacktop in 1937 doomed the hotel, as many guests began to spend the day and drive home at night, rather than staying over.  Fee fishing continued at the site for several years, In 1947, the state of Illinois acquired the 425-acre property, which opened to the public as a state park the following year.

The second floor of the hotel was torn off, and the rest was converted into a residence for park rangers. The state also reconstructed and raised the earthen dams to create a lake of 56.5 acres.  In 1955, additional land was acquired, boosting the park to 737 acres.

When capital improvements were made to Beaver Dam State Park in the late 2000s, the old hotel structure was sold to area residents and moved off site. The building now sits on private property.

Tom Emery is a freelance writer and historical researcher from Carlinville, Ill. He may be reached at 217-710-8392 or ilcivilwar@yahoo.com.

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Letter: The power of showing up, what local protests are really like

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When people think of protests, especially in small, conservative towns, they often imagine tension, anger, or conflict. But what I’ve experienced at our local protests is something else entirely. 

There’s music playing. People are smiling, waving, and offering encouragement. Cars pass by and honk in support. There’s laughter, conversations, and a shared sense of purpose. It’s not chaotic. It’s not hostile. It’s community. 

These protests have become a place where people come together to feel connected and hopeful. We don’t just hold signs. We bring canned goods for food pantries. We share resources. We check in on each other. Many of us also make a point to support local small businesses before and after the protests , grabbing coffee, dinner, or doing some shopping…. because we know they’re part of this community too. 

For many of us, especially those who’ve felt isolated in our beliefs, these gatherings are a lifeline. 

I’ve had countless people tell me how much this helps them. They say coming out to protest gets them off their phones, away from the news, and back into the world with purpose. They feel less alone. Less hopeless. I see it in myself too. Being around like-minded people, standing for something that matters, has improved my own mental health. Protesting reminds us that we can still make a difference. 

This isn’t about causing division. It’s about connection. It’s about choosing to take action instead of watching history repeat itself while we sit by in silence. For many of us, this is about making sure our kids, neighbors, and future generations know we tried. 

When I first had the idea to bring protests to Macoupin County, I reached out to Andi Smith in February. She had already taken the brave first step of standing with a sign in Edwardsville, and her quiet courage lit the way for so many of us. Andi has been a lighthouse of support, not just for me, but for others who are learning how to use their voice. She didn’t do it for attention. She did it because it was the right thing to do. And that kind of leadership matters. 

Now, we have weekly protests across the region. And it all started with someone deciding to show up. That’s how movements begin. That’s how change starts. Not all at once, but with one person and then another. 

I invite you to join us at our weekly protest every Tuesday from 5:00–7:00 p.m. at the Macoupin County Courthouse in Carlinville. We are building this movement with love, hope, and action.  I’m proud to be working alongside Kelley Hatlee and organizations like The 50501 Movement, Macoupin Pride, Macoupin County Action Alliance, and Indivisible. 

Weekly protests take place rain or shine every Sunday in Alton from 12 noon to 2 p.m. at the Lincoln Douglas Square, every Tuesday in Carlinville from 5 to 7 p.m. at the Macoupin County Courthouse, and every Friday from 12 noon to 2 p.m. in Edwardsville at the City Park. I encourage others to show up to one near them. You don’t need a crowd to begin. You don’t need permission to care. Just show up. Bring a sign. Start the conversation. You might be surprised how many people were waiting for someone else to take the first step. 

Because when we show up, we remember who we are. And when we come together, we realize we were never alone. 

Chelsa Pruden 

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Letter: Common ground

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To the Editor:

There is common ground for those who voted for, or against, Donald Trump to be President of the United States again.  First, we can all agree that he won the election.  Second, Kamala Harris did not whine and lie to the American people that she really won.  And third, since it was a free democratic election, the American people will get the government they deserve.

For those citizens who feel disappointed that a majority of voters chose as their leader a demagogue who believes the rule of law does not apply to him, your duty now is to bear witness to the consequences.  And remember.  For history’s sake.

Stay awake as the herd nods off, and avoids evidence of an insurrection that happened before their very eyes.  Observe the idiot wind that blows constantly from the mouths of all those Trump-pets pretending that traitors are patriots.  Don’t fall for the false equivalencies, like convincing you that their retribution is the same as real justice.

And stop thinking about King Rump.  Entertainment is his game.  He’s the best at keeping everyone distracted while he performs his con.  He knows what he’s doing.   Also, don’t waste your time trying to convince your friends and relatives who have slid down the rabbit hole of self-delusion.  This election proved Mark Twain was right when he observed: “It is easier to fool a man, than to convince him he has been fooled.”

James Tweed

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Ocean City, NJ 08226
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