Altruistic – an unselfish concern for the welfare of others, often involving actions that benefit others at the cost to the self.
They say that word was coined in the early 1850’s, but we believe the true definition came to be 100 years later. Specifically October 8, 1955.
1955 was a year where history was being made everywhere you turned. The first McDonald’s, polio vaccine deemed safe, Disneyland opened, Vietnam war was starting to escalate, and the civil rights movement started to gain momentum thanks to Rosa Parks arrest.
But somewhere in the quiet, far away from big exciting things, a baby girl was born and we believe her spirit gave life to that word.
Lorie A. Kelsey grew up in an era that promised peace, freedom, and love. And while the world around her sang about those things, her life asked something much harder of her; not just to believe in love, but to be it, over and over again, even when it was not given back.
Lorie was a free spirit who had a deep love for music that never faded, and a soul rooted in peace and kindness. She was, at heart, a lifelong hippie. She married Merle Neunaber in 1974 and together they welcomed two children. Motherhood wasn’t just something Lorie stumbled into, she took it by the horns and redefined the definition of “a mother’s love”.
She divorced in 1978 and remarried David Wiles in 1980. Lorie spent most of her days serving others. Whether that be serving tables, cleaning houses, working in nursing homes, babysitting children or just being a mom and wife. Never chasing status, just doing what she could to care for those around her.
At age 38, she became a grandmother, or “Nana”, and this might be when the fun really started. Lorie dedicated every available moment into ensuring her grandchildren had a childhood filled with magic, excitement, and structure. It carried on into their adult life and then into her great grandchildren’s lives.
She created memories that would outlive her, traditions that would carry on, and a sense of home that could always be returned to. She opened her doors when she had no space to spare. She provided warmth when there was none, and stability when everything else was uncertain.
In 2025, Lorie suffered a stroke that left her unable to care for herself. And in a full-circle moment, the family she had spent her life caring for, stepped in to care for her. After a year of hardship, Lorie took her last breath in the comfort of her home, surrounded by the love she had spent a lifetime giving away.
She lived a life that history rarely writes about. The kind built not on recognition, but endurance. You likely won’t find chapters in history books about women who hold entire families together but to her family, to us, we might say she’s worth writing an entire book about. Given the chance to rewrite a bit of history, we’d restart by adding her name to the definition of altruistic. To live altruistically; to live like Lorie.
Lorie was preceded in death by her parents, Helmar and Barbara Kelsey, her brother and sister in law, Todd and Jane Kelsey, and her niece Kate Birkenkamp.
Lorie is survived by her husband, David Wiles, her son Chad Neunaber, her daughter, Emily Neunaber, grandchildren; Elly Neunaber, Anita Neunaber, Chad Neunaber Jr, Madyson Lair, Hannah (Sam) Balltzglier, and Lauren Lambert, sister Kristen (Ray) Birkenkamp, six great grandchildren and two on the way, two nieces, one nephew, and one soul sister, Kelly from the deli.
There will be no services per her wishes. In memory of Lorie, we ask that you share some love and spread kindness
Memorials may be made to the family. Davis-Anderson Funeral Homes, Carlinville is in charge of arrangements.